Hey ladies, ever wonder if your ex is trying to weasel his way back into your life? As a guy who’s been on both sides of the breakup fence, I’ve got some insider intel on the sneaky ways we try to re-enter the picture. Buckle up, because some of these might surprise you.
1. The “Accidental” Run-In
Picture this: You’re grabbing coffee at your usual spot, and bam! There he is, looking suspiciously well-groomed for a “chance” encounter. Guys aren’t exactly subtle creatures. If he’s suddenly popping up in places he knows you frequent, he’s fishing for your attention.
2. The Social Media Stalker
Notice your ex liking your posts from three years ago at 2 AM? Yeah, he’s not just “scrolling through his feed.” He’s deep-diving into your life, trying to stay relevant. Pro tip: Check your story views. If he’s always first in line, he’s keeping tabs.
3. The Nostalgic Texter
“Remember that time we…” messages are the hallmark of a guy who’s not over you. He’s trying to trigger those warm, fuzzy memories and remind you of the good times. It’s a classic move to get you thinking about him again.
4. The Mutual Friend Informant
Suddenly, your friends are casually dropping his name into conversations? Mentioning how he’s “doing so well” but seems “kinda down lately”? Yeah, he’s using them as his personal PR team. Classic move, bro.
5. The Self-Improvement Showcase
If your ex is suddenly posting about his new gym routine, fancy job, or worldly travels, he’s trying to show you what you’re missing. It’s the guy equivalent of a post-breakup glow-up, designed to make you reconsider your decision.
6. The Jealousy Game
Is he parading his “new friend” all over social media? Chances are, it’s more show than substance. Guys often try to make their exes jealous to gauge if there’s still interest. Don’t fall for it, ladies.
7. The Drunk Dial (or Text)
Ah, the midnight “U up?” text. Liquid courage often leads to honesty, and if he’s reaching out after a few drinks, those lingering feelings are bubbling to the surface. Just remember, drunk words are often sober thoughts.
8. The Birthday Rememberer
He “just happened” to remember your birthday, your mom’s birthday, and the anniversary of when you first met your dog? Come on. He’s keeping track of these dates for a reason, and it’s not because he suddenly developed an impeccable memory.
9. The “Let’s Be Friends” Trap
If he’s pushing for a friendship right after a breakup, be wary. While some exes can be friends, often this is just a ploy to keep you in his life while he figures out how to win you back. Keep those boundaries firm, ladies.
10. The Subtle Touch
If you do meet up, pay attention to his body language. Is he finding excuses to touch your arm or stand closer than necessary? Physical contact is a way to re-establish intimacy and gauge your reaction.
11. The Future Hints
Comments about “our song” coming on the radio or plans you had for the future? He’s trying to remind you of the life you could have together. It’s a sneaky way to plant the seed of reconciliation.
12. The Grand Gesture
Finally, be on the lookout for the grand gesture. Whether it’s showing up with your favourite flowers or planning a surprise that’s “just like old times,” this is often a last-ditch effort to win you back.
If you’re thinking about making your own moves to get him back, you might want to consider your game plan carefully.
Look, navigating the post-breakup landscape can be tricky. These signs don’t always mean he wants you back, and even if he does, it doesn’t mean you should jump back in. Trust your gut, and remember why you broke up in the first place. And if you’re leaning towards moving on, there are plenty of ways to start fresh and rediscover yourself.
If you’re struggling with mixed signals or the temptation to reconcile, you’re not alone. Plenty of people find themselves in this boat, wondering if they should give it another shot or move on for good. It’s a tough call, and sometimes you need an outside perspective to see things clearly.
I offer said perspective, if you’re interested. I have coaching options, or, if you want a structured approach to getting him back then you should check out my Breakup Dojo.
Either way, remember you’re the prize here. Don’t let an ex’s mixed signals cloud your judgment or self-worth. Whether you decide to reconcile or move on, make sure it’s on your terms. You’ve got this.
