🔥 Module X

Welcome to Module #X —

My most unconventional advice is found here.

This is where you will learn about:

  • The COWN Method
  • The LOP principle
  • and HAST

(Among other things.)

Note:

If you have no idea what this section is about, read the announcement to get “context.”

  1. The Not Quite No Contact Rule
  2. HAST: Happy Attitude, Small Talk
  3. Pride & Pedestals
  4. COWN Method — Taking the wind from their sails…
  5. High Yield Leverage Points — The secret of the high yield leverage points…
  6. Hurt Feelings? — How to deal with their hurt feelings
  7. The LOP Principle — Very important!
  8. Trigger Better Emotions — About your unique position to trigger better emotional responses
  9. Killer Combo — The “X-Factor” Killer Combo..

Additional Material

  1. Tai Chi Lesson? — Take a lesson from Tai Chi
  2. NEW! Rough Notes on Pride..

Extra Notes

Below you will find some of my personal notes. Most of these ideas have been expanded upon, some not…

Cornerstone to all ↓

  1. Tap into the best version of both.
  2. Create a POMO

(Position of Most Opportunity)

Meaning ~ after the breakup, always be moving toward a POMO, creating your “strongest position” from which the odds of saving your relationship is maximised, as well as the odds of living a happy life regardless.

Tips ↓

Summon all of these:

  • Use The Clash Of Wills Neutraliser (COWN) — to take the wind from their sails
  • Find an overlapping point you can agree on
  • Expand your circle to encompass their circle
  • Don’t defend yourself (they defend you)
  • Agree completely (AC)
  • Move from NC to AC (High Ground Manoeuvre)
  • Find the right in the wrong, and speak to that
  • Be absorbed in independence
  • Soften the negative emotions
  • HAST (Happy Attitude, Small Talk)
  • Right wrongs (correct the obvious problems)..
  • Blend the rest into the relationship
  • Know your feelings are BRATS
  • Look through the “Lens of Pride” (protecting pride) for every interaction and action performed

There’s a logical order to these matters:

  1. Make yourself good;
  2. Make yourself available;
  3. Make someone very happy who makes you happy in return

(Optional — #3 could be your ex.)

If you think of it in that order you will find life to make more sense.

#1 is to return the spark in the eyes “find yourself”

Updates and new lessons are planned for this section so check back soon.